not sure what happened

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talk of int*rgr*at*on and interpersonal c*nfl*ct we'll scroll just in case those topics trigger anyone here.
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We recently had a huge "misunderstanding" with a very dear friend of almost everyone in our system. He was or maybe still is a role model and father figure for the littles. Well, after 4 days of tears and pain and phone calls we finally resolve the mess with him ( which by the way is more pain and trouble than we would go through for any other friend). But now, the 2 littles who were closest to him are seemingly gone. Is it possible for alters to spontaneously integrate because of a painful emotional experience? We (bigs) have looked everywhere inside for these 2 and they are nowhere to be found. Any thoughts on what might have happened or ideas about how to get them back would be greatly appreciated as they are sorely missed.
thanks,
Neal with Dreamers