Control

[The People]

Hi Snow. I remember that we felt the most out of control when we were first dxd. Lots of switching and, for us, new alters arriving all the time. Eventually T worked with us to help us settle down.


We have internal rules which helped. Like, the littles were not allowed to come out at work. This often meant that the time when we came home was chaotic and supper was toast and PB or cereal. However, allowing them to have that time out (well they took it) they would become chaotic. We never have ad a normal bed time since we were kids. We could never fall asleep like the sisters could. I think it is just our sleep pattern because we always stood guard. But we are also creative and supposedly creative types are night owls.

What helps us now is to try and put a schedule into our lives. Unfortunately we had to stop work a few years ago because of health issues. So we try to volunteer and join a few things. We miss work and the social connections we made there but alas that is gone now. So scheduling is harder. But routines helps us know where we are going. When we need to be there. While we don't always know for sure who will be there when we arrive but we now have an idea who goes to work, for coffee with friends etc.