DID and identity

[FreyasSpirit]

When we started this job, we felt a desire to create space for ourselves. We were openly trans from the beginning and once we encountered the idea of taking hormones and a body mod and started viewing our transition that way, we were open about that as well when the topic came up. We were also openly poly and talked about "one of our partners" when it came up. One time, our boss asked what we were doing for the weekend and we said we were going to visit one of our partners. We did not even realize that phrasing was nonstandard in any way until we thought back to it months later. We also wore our collar to work and on some days, attached our badge to the D ring on our collar and wore it like that at work. Our strategy was to be open about all the "nonstandard" parts of our identity so adding one more would be a small incremental change.

This paid off when we became aware of our plurality 18 months ago. We had someone else front for the first time and a few days later started using plural pronouns everywhere including work. Other than a few small comments about it, nobody said anything and it has not created any issues for us. We go by the body's surname at work which works for each of us and simplifies any desires any of us may have to be called by their name. Being open about plurality has actually led to us meeting three different plural systems at work.

Since then, we have continued to be open, making a coming out post on an work forum and creating a pride shirt about plurality. We bought a pronoun necklace a while ago with the cards "they (plural)", "they (singular)", "she", and "it". Over the last couple weeks, we had beings appear in system who used "it" as their primary pronoun (I [Lucia] use "it" on occasion, but usually use singular they) who were also capable of doing our job for the first time and today set our pronoun necklace at work to "it" for the first time.

We do not believe we are that out as otherkin so that will probably be the next thing we "come out" as at work.