Happy Birthday....Not.

[The People]

Well we hope you find something happy for your birthday. It must be very hard going through all of this. It is hard enough to lose a parent without the extra challenge of working through it with your brother. You have a right to the resentment. Are there any community supports that could help him? Take some of the weight off you? I am sorry you are stuck with it all too. I was fortunate in that I was hours away by plane and had many siblings to look after things. A piece of it was missing however. There is no right way to do this. A friend is going through it right now with her mother and she too has all of it on her plate. It is hard. But you will get through it. I hear ya.

One thing about losing someone is that for many of us it triggers a whole lot of other losses. So be mad, sad, afraid... allow the feelings out. Of they will stick in youj like that chewing gum your parents told you not to swallow. According to mine it stays in your gut for 5 ears if you swallow it. So don't swallow your gum and don't swallow your emotions. I am familiar with that feeling of aloneness. It sucks. But you will get through it.