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I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-05-2017, 10:01 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - nats - 03-06-2017, 04:40 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-06-2017, 06:32 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - nats - 03-07-2017, 05:04 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - The People - 03-07-2017, 11:18 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Cammy - 03-08-2017, 02:08 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-08-2017, 09:02 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Cammy - 03-09-2017, 08:57 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-20-2017, 10:24 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - just peachy - 03-21-2017, 12:17 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - nats - 03-21-2017, 10:16 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - just peachy - 07-09-2017, 03:00 PM
I Don't Feel In Control
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When I was first diagnosed with DID it took me years to even accept the diagnosis, let alone to figure out who all the different parts of my personality system were. I too felt a loss of control, especially when one of my alters would take over and I felt helpless to stop their behaviour. I tried various strategies including ignoring them, and even mentally trying to kill them off. None of this helped. Over time, I found that simply watching myself from the inside out and learning to recognize who was who in the system was a good start. Each personality within you wants validation, and when you deny them this, they will cause problems. Once I validated the personalities within me and acknowledged them by their own name, things smoothed out. I refused for the longest time to let them be named because I felt like I was enabling the disorder somehow, but this is not the case. Letting each individual be who they are and acknowledging the part that they play, i.e.: some of our alters carry most of our pain, allowed my system to start working more as a team. Fighting against yourselves rarely ever is a useful strategy and ends in chaos within the system. It is far better to gently learn the needs of each personality, who they are, and how they react to the outside world to begin to get a sense of your own internal system. Harmony is the key to living with DID, and this harmony means cooperation between all your personalities. It seems that you are still at the beginning of the journey of self-discovery, and no doubt it would feel scary and out of control. If you are able, try journaling. Have a variety of different pens with different colors available as you do so. My personalities have different ink color preferences and by allowing them to express themselves this way, everyone has a say. It is one way to learn about who is who in the zoo, and in time as you go back over the journals, you will begin to note the different attitudes and tones that mark your internal personalities. I have found this technique helpful. None of this happens overnight, so patience is necessary, but if you keep yourself open to learning and accepting the others within, in time you will know who they are and how they behave. From that point you can begin to understand yourself better and get a good feel for who your true host is.
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I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-05-2017, 10:01 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - nats - 03-06-2017, 04:40 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-06-2017, 06:32 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - nats - 03-07-2017, 05:04 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - The People - 03-07-2017, 11:18 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Cammy - 03-08-2017, 02:08 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-08-2017, 09:02 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Cammy - 03-09-2017, 08:57 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - Shadows - 03-20-2017, 10:24 PM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - just peachy - 03-21-2017, 12:17 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - nats - 03-21-2017, 10:16 AM
RE: I Don't Feel In Control - just peachy - 07-09-2017, 03:00 PM

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