how do you know?

[The People]

Everyone has an innate need to feel like they belong somewhere. (See Maslow). One thing that MM provides is that, often for the first time, people have found a place where they fit in. where they are welcomed and accepted and believed.

For the first time there is order in their interactions with people. The admin of MM (past and present) has put boundaries into place. They protect but they also teach. Most of us knew nothing about boundaries growing up. And we knew nothing about being protected.

I have been writing about online relationships. How people dismiss them as not being real. If that is the case why do we feel more connected to some people than others, even here? Most likely because there is a connection of emotions and values. Not just because they have both lived in hell on earth. Not discounting that. But even through the wires there is something about that other person that reflects something within us. Yes, sometimes that person presents as a false self and we get sucked in. But that is just practice for real life. Not jumping in too quickly. But opening a door to the chance of friendship.

There is no need for masks here. When the masks come off we become more real. Wearing a mask gets tiring so sometimes MM is a place to come and just be for a while.