when, if ever, to leave T

[FreyasSpirit]

We have made two serious attempts at therapy as an adult. The first was slightly before and into the beginnings of our plurality explorations and we left when she had no idea about multiplicity. The second was quite knowledgeable about plurality, but we are trans and he ended up being actively harmful along the axis of gender. Even so, the beginnings of that therapy were good enough that it took us a month and the encouragement of friends to actually pull ourselves away.

We have always been able to process well on our own and have a community of friends who we are slowly processing and exploring ourselves with. At this point, we are uncertain whether there exists a therapist knowledgeable along all the axes needed to be helpful to us over the long term and even less certain they would be worth the energy it would take to find them. As a result, we are unsure whether we will ever be able to use therapy as more than a short term thing to help us through life transitions.