Distancing From Feelings

[MakersDozn]

Update: In response to our posting about this topic in another forum, someone mentioned that their system had a couple of the same names as ours.

Not to worry. We're not concerned by the fact that certain names are common enough for various systems to have them (or know someone with that name).

A number of folks in our system were named after relatives and friends. Some of these people are meaningful to us; others were simply there. Other system members were named after TV characters or actors.

Laura was named after Laura Ingalls Wilder, the author and main character in the "Little House" books that inspired the TV series "Little House on the Prairie." Rachel was named after the identical twins that played Laura's younger sister Carrie. (The twin actresses were Rachel Lindsay Dana Greenbush and Sydney Robin Rene Greenbush. Our Rachel is Rachel Robin.)

Our 10-year-old Hannah originally chose our maternal grandmother's first name as her middle name. This changed after our mother died 15 years ago. We always knew that our grandmother was emotionally abusive toward our mother, but it wasn't until then that we learned the extent. Hannah changed her middle name to Caroline, the name of the mother on "Little House on the Prairie."

There was also another sister named Mary on "Little House," but that's not why I chose the name. Charity kind of chose it for me because of its religious significance, but as it turns out, the reason isn't relevant to me. In any event, it's who I am, and I feel no need to change it. I chose the middle name Eleanor, after Eleanor Roosevelt.

There's a pattern here.

Getting back to our Rachel....there's been no change in the status quo since we made the previous post. Meanwhile, Charity has been dealing with more difficult feelings, and we realize that part of her current struggle is compounded by the fact that we haven't had consistent T sessions during the past month. Our T was sick, and then her husband was sick again. He has had serious health issues during the past six months.

Our T says that we can always call her, but we're hesitant to impose. But we convinced Charity to call this evening, and it helped a little. We will have a T session on Wednesday evening as usual.

Mary and others