Semantics

[orek]

Interesting thread! I agree with much of it :

We use "insiders" and "upfronters" (who are basically insiders who have the job of fronting to the world), so everyone is on equal footing. There is much ruffling of feathers anytime a T inadvertently implies that upfronters are somehow "the" person that everyone inside "split" from. I don't mind the term "split" (and Tangled, LOVE your analogies--spot on), just so there isn't that power differential implied between upfronters and insiders. We don't know who or where the "original" person is, if she exists. Maybe somewhere in there. In a way it doesn't matter since, though everyone feels like separate persons, we are all part of one psyche and share the same "shell"--a term for the body our T is trying to get us to move away from so that we claim the body more. But it certainly feels like a shell, one that is used by whoever fronts. Insiders don't feel it's theirs, just the one they are stuck with when out. I get that.