RE: she's gone....
Hi, we use the handle "orek" here, though some of us use our insider names or collective names. We've been coming here a number of years but not very consistently, so I don't think we've met you. Therefore, knowing we are unfamiliar with you and your system, please disregard and forgive us if our feedback is so off base it makes you want to scream. What you shared is big and important, and I'm afraid we can't do it proper justice, but for what it's worth, a couple things did occur to us.
I'm sorry kitty suddenly left you in charge and confused, especially without an explanation. How disorienting! However, I feel from your post that you are a very thoughtful and capable guy, and I'm wondering if kitty didn't just need a rest and feel safe leaving things in your hands. Lots of times people have confidence and faith in us without thinking to verbalize it. I know our upfronters sometimes have a "changing of the guard" because the ones presenting just get so beaten down and tired that they are in need of rest and safe retreat. It's amazing how all our systems just seem to know how to allow that to happen within our own workings so that we can keep going against all odds, isn't it? Do you think this might be what's going on? Perhaps she's not mad at all, but, as the person "in charge" of your system, she just wanted/needed a break?
My second thought is about exposing your DID status. We don't let people know either, except our T and wife. Having been to a college counselor, I would worry about that relationship being safe enough to expose your DID, as well, and not because a diagnosis is necessarily a bad thing--it's not always. It can be validating and also allow your T to justify to insurance companies and bosses the type of help you need. But my concern is more with the transitory nature of college counselors and the possibly deficient training on things of this nature. Only you can know if it's safe, but if Kitty chose not to share with this counselor, I'm glad to see you are hesitating, as well.
I'm sure you all will find your own way, and again, please forgive me if the input is way off. We're sorry you're going through such a confusing transition, and do keep everyone here posted on how it's going. We hope kitty is okay and getting some good rest somewhere. Cheers.--orek
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