comment on forgiveness..

[The People]

For me forgiveness is putting aside the anger and hatred. However, it does not mean I will allow you to have the opportunity to hurt me again. Whether it is a FM (including SO) who hurts me or someone who steals from me I will not be in the position to let this happen again.

Years ago I read a book that says "when forgiveness doesn't make sense." The example they used was a man who looked after the books was caught stealing. He sought forgiveness and was given it but the church did not give him the accounting job back.

My family hurt me in every way possible. I did the anger thing, let it go, it comes back and I let it go again (normal under the circumstances.) What I do for the most part is say "it is not in my hands". I do not wish them ill will. In fact I wish them well. They hate me but so be it. In the end I choose to stay away from them so that they cannot hurt me again.