Road Block

[nats]

we see this perhaps slightly differently from MDs and tweeter. to us it sounded like you were probably looking for validation and support from your T but what you asked her for was a judgement - "do you think I'm a good mum..?" if someone I didn't yet know well asked me that kind of question I would probably say something equally vague and ineffective just b/c the alternatives ("Yes I think you're wonderful" - sounds fake, "I'm sure you do your best" - sounds patronising, etc) seem worse. It's kind of a minefield.

having said this, we would find it very difficult to talk about examples of bad things we had done after a response like that. it would reduce our trust and we'd probably waste a lot of time demonstrating what a great mum we were rather than concentrating on healing - also not helpful.

Agree that the best approach is probably to describe to her exactly how you felt after she said this and see if you can talk it through before making any decisions one way or another on this T.