How old were you when you first told? MT

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MT - talk of physical abuse

i did not have the same type of trauma that you experienced ...

however, i do remember not being able to tell my early T's about the emotional type of abuse. it took until my 3rd T to actually try to name it. and even then i equivocated a LOT and never called it abuse. at that time i couldn't even conceive of the physical abuse - it took several years (and a different T) before that became something i could name, primarily because i have no memory of it myself, only of seeing it happen to siblings.

there was a weekend where some sisters came to visit and we had a "girls night out" and as we were talking and sharing memories, my younger sister said, "do you remember the time you did ..." i said yes, and she said "i remember watching dad h*t you and k*ck you and thinking i was next" and i broke down. i had never had anyone validate for me that it happened to me.

so that means i was in my mid 30's when i was able to name it and talk about it.