How to handle this

[mosaic]

that does sound very uncomfortable. i'm trying to put myself in that situation to see what i would do, and i am flummoxed. i would hope that i could establish my boundaries with her... but i would want to not see her at all.

you have to weigh which is greater - your desire to be in the group, or your revulsion at her. if you want to be in the group is there a way to decline offers to give you rides home, etc. to minimize contact with her? can you call her on it when she is mocking others? i know that would be really hard for me - i hate the possibility of confrontation. and at the same time i would be uncomfortable with someone being so prejudicial.

i am not a good advice giver... i've more likely just given things to ponder.