New member needs help

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yes, it will probably get worse before it gets better. we also had people who massively resisted T and threw us into every possible distraction - easy enough as work was/is demanding. those who resisted 'healing' expressed that it would make our system too weak, that it was a waste of time, that being functional (i.e. maintaining a job) was too important to risk, etc. some of his people may be scared of what change and healing actually means.

obviously, you can also see these as excuses to avoid something very unpleasant, but the issue about being a community in one body is that everyone's perspective needs to be listened to and compromises need to be reached. none of this helps you directly as the person who loves and is living with this currently dysfunctional community, but maybe talking to people here can help with understanding and with understanding can come coping mechanisms and ways to support this process for them and for you and your sons. it's important not to ignore bad behaviour but how you assert yourself is important. your T should be able to help with this too.