I wish.......

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(09-14-2014, 09:56 PM)Tangled Web Wrote: Nats I don't have control, not like you think I do. All they have to do is give me 24 hours notice and then they come in. I can't stop them.

I can't SEE the differences. It doesn't feel any different-not at all. All it makes me is feel is powerless-violated and not safe.

Thank you for your support everyone. I don't see this ending anytime soon. It has opened up Pandora's box for us and we have absolutely no idea how to put all this stuff back inside.

And I agree with you The People


From many Tangled

I get how triggering that would be. I often get triggered intensely just having invited guests in my home, let alone strangers who are coming and going at all times via the owners. Of course that feels awful, frustrating, scary, triggering. I'm so sorry. I hope it's over soon. Do keep reminding your inside kids that, even though it reminds you all of the powerlessness of your past situation, you aren't unsafe in the same way. It's a necessary intrusion, as every renter stuck in the situation where the owner wants to sell can attest, but you are not being ab*sed, nor are you helpless to protect yourself now.

"It's okay to cry" doesn't make much sense to me, either. I rarely cried in therapy, but luckily when we would, our recently retired T would just be there, holding the therapy space, making us feel safe, supporting us, maybe saying something to acknowledge our pain, or even just a supportive non-verbal noise to show she is right there with us or whatever. But she'd never interrupt the flow or say anything trite, for which I'm grateful. I'm sure your T isn't trying to be trite. She probably thinks she's giving you "permission" to cry---permission you didn't have probably in the past. She wants you to know it's normal to cry and that it's safe--you won't be in trouble for expressing your pain and frustration. But still, it can sound cliche, fer shur.