comment on blame..

[Tangled Web]

Yes that totally makes sense. For years I thought I had the word damaged tattooed on me somewhere that predators or dodgy people only could see. Like they had x-ray vision or something. I was a total magnet for them. I felt it was me and completely blamed myself for the choices I made. The thing was I didn't know I actually HAD a choice, or what other choices there were out there. You do get to a point where all you can see is the victim within you, at least that was my experience. I had no way out. BUT there is a way out. There ARE other choices, there will ALWAYS be dodgy people in the world BUT that doesn't mean I have to let them into MY life. I got tired of it and enough was enough. Not to say that was easy and I still let dodgy people into my life to a point but I am better at identifying them and shutting them out once I figure it out. It is hard because those type of people are familiar to us. It is what we were accustomed to. It isn't anymore. We deserve better. I have always been an introvert and never found much use for a lot of people in my life. Things get to complicated. But that is another story...........