T gift for Two

[orek]

I have to admit that reading this brings up big concerns re: boundary issues. An occasional small gift from your T to draw out a kid or establish a connection would be okay, but regular gifts (especially when not respecting your express wishes)--and even more concerning, handing out money--seem to constitute a real boundary violation to me. And for the exact reason that things can get to feeling weird and unsure as it does now for you. I hope I'm reading it wrong, but regardless of how charming a particular insider may be, our Ts need to be keep sight of and treat the "whole" person and not engage in behavior that helps solidify the separateness or appears to take sides. I'm sorry you and Two have to work through this confusing dynamic, and I hope your T listens and adjusts her giving accordingly.