On Denial (in answer to nats)

[Tangled Web]

Wanted to add another thought regarding lies. I remember the first time my T asked me if my parents ever lied to me and I looked at her in disbelief. I was shocked those words even came out of her mouth and then when she told me they lied I thought I was going to fall on the floor. It is the child- like thinking that gets me. I even told her it was a good thing they weren't around to hear her say that because she might not have any teeth left. I on the other hand have been told my whole entire life I was liar and I was unable at that time to see my parents as liars. It just didn't make sense to me, nothing did when I tried to see them as that. Once I started looking at trying to see my parents as lying to us, things started to crumble for me inside and nothing made sense anymore. The place I always go to when this comes up is by asking myself well if that is true then what does that say about this........or what does it mean then about that..........? Those are hard truths to swallow for us. I can however say my parents lied to me now. I just don't know exactly which ones are lies and which ones are the truth..........that is where we struggle in distinguishing the difference. My T can tell me that what they said was a lie but how do I know she isn't lying to me also? Just because she is a T doesn't necessarily make her right. But now we are getting into the trust issues we have so I think we will stop here. Thanks for having this discussion with me, I think it is a very good discussion to have.