education question

[The People]

Reilly I am surprised that the learning child would be pushed out as a punishment. Mine do the opposite. When somebody is being stupid or ornery the others try to block (usually a her but occasionally a him). I like your idea of making learning fun so that the others might want to join in and help.

Do you belong to any home schooling groups? People here who home school, as well as someone who used to post, belong to home schooling groups so that they have someone to share ideas with as well as to give their kids social outlets. While I cannot see anyone putting put an ad saying "Mother of multiple wanting to start home schooling group" joining one might be helpful for both of you. Your son might be scared of being around others but it is a way of life. And if you have questions you can phrase as 'he' instead of 'they' and some parents might have had similar situations. Home schooling can sometimes lead to social isolation. While I can see why you choose this route for your kids I think it would be helpful for all of you if you had support and the kids knew that they weren't home schooled because despite what you tell them, they are weird or whatever labels they choose for themselves. School is hard as a multiple and it is so easy to grow up and be isolated because hiding behind whatever works is less scary.

This might get a little windy. Some of us here often wondered if MJ was multiple. He did some weird stuff when all he really wanted was to be loved and accepted. People saw him leading the kids around with scarves over their heads but as a result of this the kids were never found out at their karate or whatever acitivity they were at. When Dad was not with them they were scarf free yet not spotted as being MJs kids. It makes sense now but confused people then. What can be a scarf for your son and his others? What can he use so that when he goes out in public, and we all have to go out sometime, nobody will figure out how exceptional he is. They will just see him as another kid taking swimming lessons or going to the library or running track. To me these are the important things to intertwine with the academics. Multiples that I know have trouble feeling accepted. When we are we are surprised. I have some really nice friends who like me and I am unable to see why sometimes. But it helps to know they are there even if they are across the country. OK stopping now. Just something to think about for the other art of schooling. Teach the student not the subject is something I recently read.