Newbie on the block

[Catherine0791]

(07-14-2012, 05:54 PM)MakersDozn Wrote:

(07-13-2012, 06:27 PM)Catherine0791 Wrote: My boyfriend and I have recently discovered he has DID and we're both just trying to figure things out. And advice for starting out would be greatly appreciated.

Hi Catherine, nice to meet you. We ourselves are multiple, as are most of the community here, but there are a few singleton members. We also have at least one member who's a multiple in a relationship with another multiple.

Speaking from our own experience....we're not in a relationship and have never really had one....we'd say that the best thing you can do for your BF is to take care of you. Are you comfortable with multiplicity, and with being around your BF's others? And if his others don't feel like coming out in your presence, are you comfortable with this as well?

We say this because people here in this community have a variety of approaches to how they factor their multiplicity into their external relationship(s). Some folks don't want their insiders to come out around other outside people. Other folks (like us) wish that we could be ourselves and come out more around outsiders who are important to us.

So....would you like to tell a little about yourself? If you don't, that's okay. We hope you feel comfortable here.

MDs

Hi MDs,

My BF is the first multi I've met but so far everything's ok. I actually met a couple of them before he knew for certain he was multi. They all seem ok with me so far but it's only been about a week and a half since this all came out.

As for me, I'm a 21 year old Drama student and my BF's a 19 year old Physics student. There's one or two of his others that don't particularly want to come out but that's ok with both me and him. There's another one that just wants me to take care of her when she comes out as she's only 5. It's all just a lot to take in and I'm trying to be as sensitive as I can as I know this has come as a major upheaval to him as well.