T is leaving

[The People]

We have been through this more than a few times. In 1 case I walked away but in other situations they left. The transition was most effective when we allowed T to help us find someone. Except for when we walked away. However, it also helped when we took a break in order to mourn the loss of the old one.

Sorry you have to go through this. We worry that present T will leave soon. For us it is almost like a divorce because we didn't always understand why they left. However by shutting them out we didn't have a chance to work through that with them. Saying goodbye is important. IMO it is most important to the littles as T is usually the only healthy relationship they have ever had. I am still sorry you have to go through this. Take care.