Self-care

[FreyasSpirit]

The major self care thing we have started doing recently is whenever things are feeling too intense or we are feeling too anxious or we are just feeling not so great in general is to take time for ourselves. This comes in a variety of forms:
- cancelling weekend plans or not making plans in the first place so we have a weekend alone to think or to not think and to simply relax and do nothing
- taking walks to create a long uninterrupted time for thoughts to flow freely. Lying in bed and during walks seem to be the best time for this. Sometimes we process things, sometimes we don't and regardless of whether we do, walks create time to open the possibility of processing.
- taking a mental health day from work when needed

Another thing we try to do is to keep track of who is fronting. When we don't do this, our system tends to do this for us which results in more involuntary switches. Keeping track of who is fronting falls under the larger category of monitoring our mental state. Only when we are aware of how well we are doing can we react appropriately and take steps to guide ourselves into a better state.