We deserve a celebration.

[MakersDozn]

Great post. So true.

Today when we were paying for our groceries, the cashier, a woman perhaps in her late fifties, wished us a happy Mother's Day. As matter-of-factly and calmly as we could, we replied, "I'm not a mother." For a nanosecond we were anxious about how she would react, but she simply said, "Well, then have a nice day."

Not everybody is a mother, nor does every woman want to be. Whenever we go to the supermarket, we grab a cart and make sure to buckle the little seatbelt backwards, *behind* the child seat, to make a statement. Of course nobody notices, and we don't expect anybody to notice. But we feel empowered and validated by doing it.

Back to the cashier. This sort of thing also happens to us at winter holiday time, as we again don't fit in with the majority. It bothers us that some people assume that all people fit the same mold, live the same life, and have the same view of what constitutes an act of goodwill. It's simply not so. But we're never going to convince all the well-meaning but narrow-minded cashiers of the world, so we have to find a way to deal with them without getting upset by them.

May all of us, no matter who we are and what choices and circumstances exist in our lives, have a good day.

MDs