About people caring
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Aside from your T or already spouse does it make you feel weird when people really REALLY appear to care about you? My Bday is coming. I just got a parcel from my sister. While she gets confused b/t what was given what is given she works so hard to ensure that I know that she cares about me.

I am spending a night with a friend as we are having pizza and wine for supper. On the DAY we have been invited by other friends to go for supper and a movie. 2 pizzas may be a bit much. But it means so much that these people care so much about me.

T gave us a cuddle quilt (good for winters in Canada when one is watching TV) As it is red (Red Is Best) Two has been taking it to bed. Our winter quilt is being washed by a friend as it had that 'packed' smell to it. However, the red quilt will be well used. T gave us other things, some she got for free like a bracelet.

These people care about us? Some even love us? So weird. But I can handle it now. Unlike years ago when I would go into hiding. Especially before I knew about 'We'. Anyone relate?

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10-31-2019, 01:52 AM
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RE: About people caring
i can definitely relate. before i knew about being "we", i told my then T about how a couple of friends from church took me to a movie. i cried as i told him. it was like it hurt to contemplate that they really cared about me.

i learned early not to trust my perceptions - when i shared what i perceived with my mother she would dismiss it with either "it's just your imagination" or "they're just being nice"

to this day i struggle to trust when i perceive that someone likes me... they might just be nice.
10-31-2019, 09:00 AM
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RE: About people caring
I too get that surprised feeling when anyone shows any form of care towards me. Also get slightly paranoid if any do...can never shake off the feeling they want something
11-01-2019, 03:30 AM
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RE: About people caring
agreeing with phoenix22, though we've gotten much better.
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