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    Thread: What is Rapid Switching?
Post: RE: What is Rapid Switching?

This is one of the best articles we have seen on this: For us, involuntary rapid switching is a sign that we have let our ...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 6 2,602 03-27-2017, 03:23 PM
    Thread: New therapist!
Post: New therapist!

A friend referred us to the therapist they have been seeing for over a year. The first appointment got delayed by a month because she was sick then we had to travel for work, but we finally got to se...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 1 1,560 04-13-2016, 08:20 PM
    Thread: The Importance of Community
Post: The Importance of Community

We have had many of these thoughts floating around our mind for a long time and finally sat down and wrote them out. To us, building communities is one of the core reasons we are involved in the plur...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 2 1,617 04-10-2016, 03:34 PM
    Thread: Post memory reactions
Post: RE: Post memory reactions

Dealing with new memories comes in waves. The first pass, we often ignore it or minimize the memory, or just say "this sounds scary, I hope this isn't real" and try not to think about it. Then the s...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 2 1,687 04-09-2016, 06:31 PM
    Thread: Stepping Down From BoD and Admin Teams
Post: RE: Stepping Down From BoD and Admin Teams

Thank you for all your work building and running this wonderful community.
FreyasSpirit Town Square 11 4,671 03-08-2016, 01:41 PM
    Thread: Who keeps things in order
Post: RE: Who keeps things in order

One of our current models is that a variety of other things like SPD and autism and being trans can put people in a state where their baseline stress level is higher. As a result, these people are ab...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 13 4,261 03-07-2016, 12:26 AM
    Thread: Who keeps things in order
Post: RE: Who keeps things in order

This is interesting and something we had never considered. We have had a few instances where under extreme stress, someone vanishes for a short while (up to a few days). The time it happened for a f...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 13 4,261 03-05-2016, 06:29 PM
    Thread: A thought on 'stuck'
Post: RE: A thought on 'stuck'

This is a wonderful quote and fits so well with our system's history.  After elementary school, we buried all our emotions and went numb for several years and our emotions only came back when we were ...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 5 2,447 03-04-2016, 08:08 PM
    Thread: Comparison of challeged lives
Post: RE: Comparison of challeged lives

Plural activism is something which is on our mind quite a bit these days. We want to find a way to promote the idea that multiplicity is not problematic in and of itself, but correlates strongly with...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 15 5,577 03-01-2016, 08:02 PM
    Thread: poly-fragmented vs. "traditional" DID
Post: RE: poly-fragmented vs. "traditional" DID

The term polyfragmented continues to draw us towards it and fascinate us. We just went through and did our best to define the term and wrote out many of our thoughts about it. The definition bit: Po...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 43 54,043 02-15-2016, 07:50 PM
    Thread: Can't forgive T
Post: RE: Can't forgive T

It's frustrating how time Ts need to create at least 10 positive interactions for every bad interaction. Even if they have done this in the past, they need to continue to do this in the future. The ...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 14 6,704 01-18-2016, 05:52 PM
    Thread: Greetings to All
Post: RE: Greetings to All

Welcome. It is wonderful to see partners taking such active steps to learn and help their partner heal. Feel free to ask any questions!
FreyasSpirit Welcome Wagon 10 5,103 01-18-2016, 05:28 PM
    Thread: Reacting to people relying on you
Post: RE: Reacting to people relying on you

Take care of yourself first. In the past, we have overcommitted ourselves in situations like this and let it reach the breaking point where we couldn't handle it any more. At that point, we had to f...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 6 2,159 01-12-2016, 10:31 AM
    Thread: Turning the big 6-0 today
Post: RE: Turning the big 6-0 today

Happy birthday! Sounds like you had a nice and relaxing day :)
FreyasSpirit Town Square 9 2,890 01-12-2016, 10:11 AM
    Thread: Happy Birthday MDs
Post: RE: Happy Birthday MDs

Happy birthday!
FreyasSpirit Town Square 7 2,621 01-04-2016, 07:27 PM
    Thread: Hi - Intro
Post: RE: Hi - Intro

Welcome! This is the second time we have heard about an infinite mind in the last month.  The first we heard was when Jim Bunkelman was invited after appearing on npr's snap judgement: (tw: some disc...
FreyasSpirit Welcome Wagon 18 8,035 01-02-2016, 02:03 AM
    Thread: happy new year everyone!
Post: RE: happy new year everyone!

This holiday season has been very cleansing for us. It has cleared a lot of space for potential healing and growth. We hope the potential for healing is realized, both by us, and by everyone else he...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 4 2,028 01-01-2016, 06:51 PM
    Thread: rfeeling frustrated.
Post: RE: rfeeling frustrated.

The mechanism we use is to have google calendar send us a reminder email for both morning and evening meds. If the email is read, it means we have taken our meds, otherwise we have not. We are very ...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 3 1,655 11-28-2015, 05:01 PM
    Thread: poly-fragmented vs. "traditional" DID
Post: RE: poly-fragmented vs. "traditional" DID

We want to say thank you for this thread. When we were initially looking through this forum, this was the thread which really caught our eye and made us decide to join. Before this, we had never enc...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 43 54,043 11-20-2015, 01:04 AM
    Thread: what is safety?
Post: RE: what is safety?

For us, being safe means that we have space where we can curl up and be broken. There are many places which are neither safe nor unsafe such as work or at a store where we are not unsafe, but also wo...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 4 2,199 11-16-2015, 08:16 PM
    Thread: Patience and the Healing Process
Post: RE: Patience and the Healing Process

In the past, we have alternated periods of healing and periods of just living and enjoying the healing we have done. Sometimes, we are in pain and have a strong desire to heal and actively work on he...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 7 3,112 10-23-2015, 04:09 PM
    Thread: Broken
Post: Broken

We are broken. Broken is something we self identify as. We view it as an important part of our identity. We told this to our therapist and she asked questions and explored what being broken meant t...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 1 1,359 10-14-2015, 07:58 PM
    Thread: Resolution
Post: RE: Resolution

We aren't sure if this is the same thing as guided imagery, but spending time innerworld and innerworld hugs definitely helps calm us. When we aren't doing as well, we like to take an hour to lie in ...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 3 1,770 10-01-2015, 01:38 PM
    Thread: DID and identity
Post: RE: DID and identity

We are immensely lucky to be able to do that and are well aware of our luck. We are trying to take advantage of the luck as best we can and believe being this open is doing a reasonable job of using ...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 16 7,453 09-28-2015, 06:48 PM
    Thread: New med coming out
Post: RE: New med coming out

Very nicely put MD. Our trauma is part of us. We would no longer be us if our trauma was removed. What would happen to all the knowledge and understanding we have gained in processing our trauma?...
FreyasSpirit Therapy Lane 11 6,882 09-27-2015, 03:26 PM
    Thread: DID and identity
Post: RE: DID and identity

We just did a rough count and came up with about 24/28. It is possible the others will remain identifying as human, but it is also possible they will find their form in time and also end up identifyi...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 16 7,453 09-27-2015, 03:02 PM
    Thread: Finding a balance...
Post: RE: Finding a balance...

We have been experimenting with the approach of reducing responsibilities as much as possible and taking time for ourselves when we feel overwhelmed. In the most extreme cases, we isolate (leave all ...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 6 2,722 09-26-2015, 07:42 PM
    Thread: Faking D.I.D.
Post: RE: Faking D.I.D.

We have been thinking about this post for several days now and we keep seeing parallels between this and trans care. In the 70s, the best practices for trans healthcare involved a therapist putting p...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 13 6,371 09-24-2015, 03:19 PM
    Thread: DID and identity
Post: RE: DID and identity

When we started this job, we felt a desire to create space for ourselves. We were openly trans from the beginning and once we encountered the idea of taking hormones and a body mod and started viewin...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 16 7,453 09-23-2015, 12:14 AM
    Thread: Your best ways to combat anxiety?
Post: RE: Your best ways to combat anxiety?

We tend to go on a walk and lightly dissociate and just let our thoughts flow. An uninterrupted 30-60m time period where our mind can freely wander tends to be very useful for finding light stuff tha...
FreyasSpirit Town Square 5 2,362 08-28-2015, 02:41 AM