What would you do?

[nats]

we know you're all correct. it's taken us till adulthood, but now we have our own money we've learnt to spend as well as save. we still struggle, but better....

we don't think you should skip m&ms and wine if those are the things that help you feel good, just as we don't want to skip our morning coffee even though we physically don't need it. these things we use to help us feel like the world is alright are different for all of us (which is why we would skip yours but that doesn't mean we're saying you should skip them).

maybe best thing is, as you said, tell T all of this that you're struggling and need support but don't feel comfortable getting a free session. sometimes I wonder whether the reason we multiples suffer so much with these kinds of issues is that we try harder to be good than most people seem to. therefore, when we don't live up to our overly ambitious expectations of what this means we feel terrible - again, not saying this is any of you, but sometimes find myself and ourselves worrying about how to do things that monominds never seem to think about...