Patience and the Healing Process

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seconding Igraine here. we also got tired of putting life on hold for healing and decided that raising a child and achieving other life goals were more important to us than addressing our deep-seated pain in T. not that dealing with our issues isn't important or that they should be ignored or denied, but that we weren't willing to make healing the focus of our life and our identity while everything else passed us by. this choice was also because we didn't feel we were getting anywhere in T and were just wasting time and money. we'd rather spend that on things where we can see progress - so, patience is not a strong point.