Therapy

[nats]

wanting to help and knowing you are able to help ARE two different things and she sounds like me may not be aware what she is able to do and not do.

seconding orek. that's what it sounds like. T overconfidence. are you getting more benefit than harm from this relationship? we stopped T eventually b/c of not being able to get around exactly what you're describing. we just went round in circles. however, sometimes you've described really good progress so it may be a balance. bottom line question is whether you feel more good than harm.