comment on blame..

[Tangled Web]

Hi Down the Rabbithole. I also have someone inside who blames us for what happens. I was not talking above about blaming a child or a victim/survivor of any kind of abuse. It is NOT their fault. The point I was trying to make is that it is your choice/responsibility for what you do with it. I was coming from the perspective that no one can hold a gun to your head and tell you-you HAVE to do this now. It is a choice. Mind you, you also have to have the right tools to make those types of choices and the correct information. It is hard and I know that, It is very difficult BUT once you start talking your power BACK by making the hard choices and following through with them, taking responsibility for your own healing process...... it is also VERY empowering. It is a process, and I do believe that if you keep working on it you will find that place where you would like to be. Hope is also hard to have while you are in the midst of horrible things.
Others inside don't agree with this and are stuck and struggle every day with this. Also I am coming from a very different place than they are. I didn't have those horrible things done to me, I am just around to help and this is just my opinion.
Kathy