is it bad?

[WendyLee]

We can totally relate. We hit a kind of paralysis when we try to push ourselves to do more than the minimum. Sitting is safe. Moving is dangerous...

If we don't move we don't feel the terror of being punished, or worse, for not sitting still and being a 'good girl'. Fear of the rage and envy from the foo and other abusers. Fear of making the 'wrong' decisions.

Fear of being ourselves so we become what others expect, and lose ourselves in the process.