curious how you are doing

[nats]

are you seeing a therapist? this is the kind of stuff that multiples need to work on in therapy. personally, we think its the wrong or at least a disrespectful approach for a 'host' to try to 'control the alters' as imagine if you're in a room full of people, even if you want to lead them somewhere you wouldn't expect to 'control' them. we have to learn to live with and work together with each other. speaking as a fronter, but non-host, the more someone tries to control me the less likely I am to cooperate. the same is likely true for a lot of non-hosts..