New member needs help

[Phoenix1221]

Update:

I scheduled counseling so husband and I could go together on Monday as T requested. Husband refused. Silent treatment of me and kids continues--started sat 28 Jan. Over the weekend, he left for 8-9 hours at a time with no word. Yesterday he left for work 7:15am and not home till 11pm. No contact with me or kids. Nightmares have started. I usually email what he says and does so he knows; this time he sent an email back telling me he takes that as a threat and says I'm being passive aggressive. Everything is being turned around on me, though I am the one caring for our chidren and staying in this game. I am at wits' end. When he is in this place, he starts doing strange things like monitoring my texts, emails, locking me out of our apple account. He does same thing every time. It has all started. It is very scary for me as last time a big break like this happened, he wouldn't let me and kids in house. I ended up having to get a restraining order, which was awful for all of us and he still hates me for (though of course, it was my last resort). Husband is able to work and be completely fine and together while there...in fact with everyone else he is fine. I do not have the ability to dissociate...my life is crumbling before my eyes. I do not know how much more of this I can take. My kids are stressed to the max. I don't know how to proceed.