Therapy

[The People]

We met with a T several years back. As she is of Asian descent I found it difficult to determine how old she was. She looked like she was fresh out of school. I actually brought that up to her, my fear of her not handling me and my sh*t. She responded that she could look after herself.

This proved to be true. She had very good boundaries, listened well and understood DID. We really liked her. We came very far in our short time with her.

As for the stumbling over words are you always present? Are there some alters who do get upset when she doesn't choose her words carefully. To be honest that would drive me bonkers as well. I would rather they pause and gather their thoughts as opposed to stumbling like that.

One way to look at it is that we are all human, Monomind or DID. As a result we all do things that irritate or worry others. I can obsess on such things but I find it to be an obstruction re getting any work done.

One T that we worked with for a long time was a bit OCD, self acknowledged. She could not stand anything on her desk out of order. So I would come in and start talking. She would tidy which would make me crazy even though she said "keep going I'm listening!" It drove me crazy however. So I learned to either not talk or chit chat while she took a few seconds to tidy and I had her full attention. She was my first post dx T and we certainly had our ups and downs . But we did work hard together and with her help I came a long way.