things are just blah

[angel with wings]

(08-10-2014, 08:03 PM)MakersDozn Wrote: We've come to the conclusion that control isn't really possible, or even desirable, in most circumstances. Control is what our abusers tried to exert over us, and what people in power often try to exert over other people.

What we see as preferable, and more attainable, is empowerment. The difference is that unlike control, empowerment doesn't depend on our domination of people, places and things. Empowerment is recognizing our own strengths and opportunities and using them effectively to better our quality of life.

That being said, we still struggle with issues of control and with a lot of the feelings that you describe. It's easy for us as survivors to feel disempowered based on our past experience, even if new opportunities now exist for us to empower ourselves. And it's difficult to process the feelings and experiences from the past that keep us from moving forward.

Hoping that we both/all find what we need to continue healing.

MDs

well said.