explaining what triggers are

[dreamers]

my best friend is really trying to understand did and help with littles etc but, we do hit a wall repeately. he thinks that when we get triggered its because we think he is like Mr X and Mrs Y ( the fidiots who caused our DID). or he thinks we get triggered because we dont trust him. nothing could be further from the truth. but, every time we are triggered S pulls away emotionally and goes into a shell and it takes forever to get him back out. any thoughts on telling him its not him if we get triggered. weve tried everything we can think of thanks